How to Deal with Being Ghosted by Your Husband

Imagine this: you’re on a volunteer trip on the other side of the world, doing something good for humanity. You expect your husband to be supportive and proud of you, but instead, he stops answering your calls, texts, and emails. You have no idea what’s going on, and you start to panic. Is he cheating on you? Is he planning on leaving you? Is he in danger? You feel hurt, confused, and betrayed.

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This is what happened to one woman, who posted her story on Reddit, asking for advice. She said she had been married for six years and had a happy and stable relationship with her husband. They had no kids, no debt, and no major problems. She decided to go on a volunteer trip to Africa for three months, and he agreed to it. He even helped her pack and drove her to the airport. He said he loved her and would miss her, and promised to keep in touch.

However, after she arrived in Africa, he began to distance himself and became unresponsive. His replies to her messages were limited to one-word answers if he replied at all. He consistently avoided her calls, making various excuses such as being busy with work, having a poor connection, or feeling tired. Not once did he ask about her well-being or what she was up to. He never expressed his love for her or mentioned missing her. It was as if she didn’t exist to him.

She tried to be understanding and patient, but she couldn’t help feeling hurt and worried. She wondered if he was having an affair, or if he had fallen out of love with her. She wondered if he was going to divorce her when she came back. She wondered if he was even alive.

It’s a cruel and cowardly way of ending a relationship, and it can leave the person who was ghosted feeling devastated, confused, and angry. Ghosting can happen in any kind of relationship, from casual dating to long-term marriage. It can happen for any reason, from losing interest to finding someone else to having personal issues.

Ghosting is a form of emotional abuse, and it can have serious consequences for the person who was ghosted.Ghosting can cause anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and trust issues. It can also trigger feelings of abandonment, rejection, and betrayal.

So, how can you cope with being ghosted by your husband?

Here are some tips from experts and survivors:

– Don’t blame yourself. It’s not because you did something wrong, or because you’re not good enough, or because you deserve to be treated this way. Ghosting is a reflection of the other person’s character, not yours. They are the ones who have a problem, not you. They are the ones who are immature, cowardly, and disrespectful, not you. Don’t let their actions define your self-worth or your happiness.

– Don’t chase them. Ghosting is a way of saying that they don’t want to talk to you, see you, or be with you. Trying to contact them will only make you feel more frustrated and more rejected. It will also give them more power over you, and more satisfaction from hurting you. Respect their decision, and respect yourself. Let them go, and focus on yourself. You deserve better than someone who can’t even give you a proper goodbye.

– Don’t expect closure. Closure is a universal desire that we all yearn for, but unfortunately, it is often elusive. It embodies the hope that we can attain a clear and truthful explanation for why someone chose to depart from our lives, allowing us to bid them farewell with respect and tranquility. In certain instances, the individual who left us may lack a valid justification for their actions, or they may simply not incline to share their reasons, displaying a disregard for our feelings. Regrettably, there are occasions when the only closure we can obtain is the one we generate for ourselves. It is possible to find solace and embark on a new chapter in our lives even in the absence of their acknowledgment or input.

– Seek support. Remember, you’re not alone. Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for help and support. They can provide comfort, and advice, and remind you of your strengths. You don’t have to face this by yourself.

– Take care of yourself. Ghosting can impact your health, so take care of yourself. Do things that make you feel good and help you relax. Eat well, sleep well, exercise, meditate, journal, listen to music, watch a movie, read a book, or do whatever works for you. Be kind to yourself and don’t neglect your needs.

– Move on. Ghosting is tough, but you have a future and a choice. Let go of the past and heal. Grow stronger and find happiness again. Choose to move on.

Being ghosted by your husband is one of the worst things that can happen to you, but it’s not the end of the world. You can survive it, and you can thrive after it. You are not alone, and you are not powerless. You are a strong, beautiful, and valuable person, and you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Don’t let ghosting define you, or destroy you. You can overcome it, and you can move on. You can be happy again, and you will.